Wednesday, September 30, 2009

The Longest Week of My Life

Shortly after I last wrote in my blog, I got the phone call that every mother dreads and my personal nightmare began. My 22 year old son, Hunter, lost control of his motorcycle at high speed and slammed face first into a retaining wall. Although he had recently promised me he always wore his helmet, this time he didnt, probably because he was making a short trip and was close to home.

With excellent care on the scene and life-flight to Denvers St. Anthony Central Hospital, one of the top neuro-trauma centers in the country, miraculously my son survived. He has a massive brain injury and every bone in his face is badly broken, but he has survived and is on the long road to recovery. Other than his head, he has few injuries.

After nine days in a coma, he woke up yesterday and began responding appropriately to questions. He cannot speak yet because there is a tube in his throat (necessary for the facial reconstruction he will have in a few days). Last night I slept soundly for the first time after Hunter mouthed the words I love you mom, to me.

Today he is even more awake; beginning to respond to verbal commands to lift two fingers, lift your right leg, etc.; still nodding yes and no appropriately.  Today he wrapped his arms around me and gave me a big bear hug and slapped a big fat kiss on my cheek. Hes sleeping more than he is awake right now, but that is to be expected.

Its amazing how your life can change with one phone call and how different your perspective is once something like this has happened. Before the call, I was stressing about work, the next clinic, how I was going to get every thing done, how I was going to find time to ride my horse. All of that has changed now. I am just focused on the presentnot the futurenot the past. Hunter is strong and stubborn and a real fighter; I know he is going to be fine.

I have had tremendous support in this ordeal from my family, my incredible friends and the awesome people that work for me (who are also dear friends). For that I am so grateful. I am fine and I will be carrying on as usual soon, making all of my planned trips this fall and through the winter. Sorry to those of you who I had to cancel on last weekendIve never had to do that before but it couldn’t be helped.

If youd like to do something, you could send a get well card to Hunter (nothing else allowed in ICU), so that I can read them to him and put them up on the wall. Hunter Goodnight, Rm 211, St Anthony Central, 4231 W 16th Ave, Denver CO 80204.

Thank you so much for your thoughts and prayers,

Julie

24 comments:

GunDiva said...

Julie, I can't even imagine what you're going through. My son was hit by a car last year, and that's the worst phone call in the world to receive. He came out of it with just a broken arm, but totalled the car that hit him. My thoughts and prayers go to you, Rich, and Hunter. He's in really great hands at St. A's.

Christy Landwehr said...

Julie,

I just sent this out to the CHA Board and Regional Directors. Hunter is on the road to recovery and that is such great news! What a blessing it is to be a mom.

Christy Landwehr
CHA CEO

MzLin said...

OMG!!! Our prayers go out to the Goodnight family during this terrible ordeal. Like myself, the majority of Julie's fans have never had the pleasure of meeting her. Nevertheless, we feel a genuine connection from watching The Horsemaster on tv and following her newsletters and web blogs. I've posted Hunter's addie at St. Anthony's to my rubber stamp club, so he'll soon be getting lots of cards. MzLin

Anonymous said...

Julie............my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. I have met you a few times at the Ohio Equine Affaire. It hit me like a ton of bricks when I read your article. Being a Mom myself, it would be the worst call to receive. Hunter, is in God's hands and with you and your families love, he will get better each and every day. God bless and take care.

Jacquie - Canada

Anonymous said...

Julie,

We are so sorry to hear about Hunter. We are keeping him in our thoughts and prayers along with you and the rest of you family. Its good to hear he is recovering well.

Alli and the Morroni Family

Jennifer Sadler said...

Julie,

Philip and I are so sorry to hear about Hunters accident. We will be thinking about you guys and remember that recovery is very slow and Amazing!! We hope the very best for Hunter.

Philip and Jennifer

Susanne Valla said...

Julie, I can relate. I was doing a CHA Clinic in NC when I got the news that my daughter had been in an accident in FL and would need serious plastic surgery on her face. You feel like your life has just stopped. It's an experience I wouldn't wish on anybody. I'm so glad that he is doing better. My prayers go out to you.

karen langthorne said...

Julie, Oh my. what a nightmare. Glad to hear he's on the road to recovery and you also. My prayers are out to both Hunter and you. Paso hugs from Karen Langthorne ( I have Paso Finos)

OnTheBit said...

A tramatic brain injury is such a horrible thing to deal with, but as I always say...it is better than the alternative. I am so glad your son is alive and on the road to recovery. The thing about TBI's is that you just never know what, if anything, will change as a result of it. I have had the unfortunate experiance of having several close friends and family members suffer TBI's and the outcome has always been different. One suffered no ill effects, another was not able to have any short term memory gains, and a third went from being not very nice to being totally warm and open all the time. I know that you will have so much going on now and for a long time to come, but there is a book called "Where is the mango princess"
by a woman who writes about her experiance when her husband suffered at tramatic brain injury. I am so sorry that this had to happen and my thoughts and prayers are with you and your son.

Tess Vanattia said...

Julie,
I have been praying for Hunter and your family since Heidi told me the news a couple days ago. I was glad to see the update and so happy to know that Hunter is healing and doing better each day. Our family is remembering you each night in prayer. Get well cards are on the way!

blessings,
Tess & family

Tammi Gainer said...

Julie,
I am remembering all the "son" conversations we have had through the years. My heart and soul are hurting for you. I am praying for you, Hunter, and Rich.

Tammi Gainer

The Natural Horse Vet said...

My thoughts and prayers are with you & your family.. Hunter is out of the woods so to speak...
Hang in Julie..
JJ..

Flying Lily said...

Good healing thoughts and prayers for your boy, yourself, and all the family; what a terrible dark night to have been through.

Becky Newell said...

Oh, Julie. Tell Hunter he has to get better so he can battle more wild fires! You're in our prayers.

Becky Newell
AQHA

Anonymous said...

Julie,
You and your family are in my prayers.

Tina Bonorden

Anonymous said...

Julie,
Prayers and best wishes are sent your way from WI for Hunter's full recovery. Will you set up a Caringbridge site for Hunter's progress reports? The hospital staff can inform you about it.

cckiger said...

Julie, I have met you only briefly but like with so many of us, you are a big part of our lives with the tv show, DVD's, and each time we go out with our horses and remember some helpful thing you've said. My heart goes out to you in this trying time. Prayers for your family will be sent your way from over here. You have more support in that department than you know! cindy

Anonymous said...

Julie,
I just read your blog and am so sorry to hear this. My husband had a traumatic brain injury after a fall at work 2 1/2 years ago. It was a long road but he was back to work in the same capacity within a year. I don't know if they have mentioned Craig Hospital to you for rehab. but it is an amazing place. I will be praying for your family.
Jayne

Anonymous said...

Oh Julie! I will keep you and your family in my prayers for a while.
Carla

Kristen Whittle said...

All my positive thoughts and prayers to Hunter! I believe in the power of positive thoughts. I am sure he will continue to heal.

strivingforsavvy said...

Wow. Your story touched me. I have two boys of my own and am worry about their safety often. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. Keep fighting Hunter!

Ramona said...

Julie and Hunter, you are both in my prayers. I will pray for your doctors as well, Hunter. May God hold you close and comfort the two of you as well as your loved ones.

NetPosse said...

I am so sorry to hear about your son Julie. I too have one about that age and when the phone rings at an odd hour I just know that it is going to be the call we dread most. Your son, you and your family are in my prayers.

Anonymous said...

It has been a long healling time for me to go through. Thanks for the writing.

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